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Post by mystic on Mar 7, 2020 8:47:54 GMT -8
I have been thinking about how to best handle a situation here with my mom.
When my mom and dad was married, my dad had a mistress and mom and his mistress had had some terrible fights back then. Mom has always carried a resentment for the child my dad had with the mistress and had told me that the child is not welcome here in her house. My mom is very set in her ways and no amount of reasoning and praying on my end has ever been able to help the situation.
Last year my sister visited me here in NY and had to stay at a hotel. I was supposed to meet with her and husband at the hotel but couldn't. Also I had to meet with her son and his family outside of this house the year before.
Now a situation has arised where one of the daughters of my father's 2nd wife wants us to meet here in NY when next she comes on vacation here. I had asked my mom if this would be ok with her and she said yes, I guess this is because she had no beef with this sister's mom so had told this sister it will be ok for her to visit me here in our home.
Now however, I am not seeing this as being fair to my other sister, the one who is not welcome here and so I am thinking to tell this other sister that I will meet her outside of this home for that reason. Usually before I do anything I usually listen to the voice inside of me for direction and this is what that voice is telling me to do but I am wondering if this will be righteous in God's eyes so any scripture which might apply to this situation please?
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Post by alon on Mar 7, 2020 15:11:57 GMT -8
I have been thinking about how to best handle a situation here with my mom. When my mom and dad was married, my dad had a mistress and mom and his mistress had had some terrible fights back then. Mom has always carried a resentment for the child my dad had with the mistress and had told me that the child is not welcome here in her house. My mom is very set in her ways and no amount of reasoning and praying on my end has ever been able to help the situation. Last year my sister visited me here in NY and had to stay at a hotel. I was supposed to meet with her and husband at the hotel but couldn't. Also I had to meet with her son and his family outside of this house the year before. Now a situation has arised where one of the daughters of my father's 2nd wife wants us to meet here in NY when next she comes on vacation here. I had asked my mom if this would be ok with her and she said yes, I guess this is because she had no beef with this sister's mom so had told this sister it will be ok for her to visit me here in our home. Now however, I am not seeing this as being fair to my other sister, the one who is not welcome here and so I am thinking to tell this other sister that I will meet her outside of this home for that reason. Usually before I do anything I usually listen to the voice inside of me for direction and this is what that voice is telling me to do but I am wondering if this will be righteous in God's eyes so any scripture which might apply to this situation please? That is a tough one. What comes to mind is when Sarah had Abraham send Ishmael away. Yet later he was there when they buried his dad, so it isn't like all ties were cut.
Yours is a strange situation. But since the problem is with your mother, and I'm sure your siblings know that, they should have no problem with this sister staying with you. Talk to them and ask.
Your mom is Buddhist, right? I'm not sure a scripture from your Bible will help there anyhow.
Good luck.
Dan C
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Post by mystic on Mar 8, 2020 4:29:27 GMT -8
No my mom is officially Hindu but she is not religious.
Main problem with this when my other sister hears of this it will not be pleasing to her to know that she can't come here but the others can.
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Post by alon on Mar 8, 2020 7:43:36 GMT -8
No my mom is officially Hindu but she is not religious. Main problem with this when my other sister hears of this it will not be pleasing to her to know that she can't come here but the others can. I don't know what to tell you then. It's a tough spot to be in. I'll keep you in prayer, but not knowing your family there's only so much I can (or should) say.
Dan C
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Post by jimmie on Mar 9, 2020 15:10:07 GMT -8
This is the one I would apply personally:
Genesis 12:1 Now the LORD had said unto Abram, Get thee out of thy country, and from thy kindred, and from thy father's house, unto a land that I will shew thee:
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